What to do wth a losing relationship?

Texts: Joel Escol

A losing relationship is one of the biggest problems nowadays of both lovers and couples, and experts say there are many factors we can consider for this kind of problem present in adult online dating sites.

Among the causes of a losing relationship includes financial and sex problems, family, business,and all other related dilemmas that couples are encountering during the course of their marriage or lovers also during the course of their relationships. Below are most effective activities you should do if you are losing a relationship.

1. Try to look back what had caused the problem. The past may have to do with this and you need to know it.

2. If it had to be a financial difficulty that the marriage suffers try to find solutions, either by looking for jobs or some other means you can save the marriage from failing.

3. To be continued.

What's hard for saying sorry to your girl?

Texts: Mr Nice Guy

How would you handle the so-called lover’s quarrel? Well, many lovers out there are saying it all depends on the kind of relationship you have with your girl friend. If you have good and outstanding relationships – fine. What if you have a bad relationship and you’re seems quitting from it.

Experts say one of the primary reasons for misunderstanding between lovers is pride – which not accepting from each others fault. Remember, you are not perfect. And because you are imperfect you cannot avoid committing mistakes every now and then.


Saying SORRY and accepting your fault to your girl and vice versa is the best solution. Bridging the gap is second and talking with the problem is third. You need to say sorry before your LQ is full blown. There are couples who cannot control their temper and ended hurting the girl or the other way around. This is not a good solution to the misunderstanding but will only add something bad when you go on exchanging bad word and passing mistakes. Well, there are many sad stories about love and relationship and each has its own reasons. It’s really a matter of handling the situations. If you cannot control your temper then might just walk from the quarrel until every angers subsided – and that’s the best time to talk of the problem.

Just this simple advice: Do not strike while the iron is hot or else you’ll end up crying and bidding goodbyes.

Break Up With a Possessive Boyfriend

No one likes to be controlled, and when you have an overly possessive significant other it's hard to get the nerve up to call the relationship off. For your own health and safety's sake, here are some steps that will make it a bit easier, and keep you safe.

Steps

1. Get Out- If you live with the person, then you need to find a time, a span of eight or so hours when he's at work or away, and pack your belongings and go to a safe place. For example, your parent's house, grandma's, your distant aunt's apartment or a women's shelter. You need to take yourself out of the location and get to a place where you know he won't be welcome.
   
2. Break Up- You can do this a number of ways. You can call him, and do the break up over the phone; you can meet in a public area, like a coffee shop and call it off; or you can pack your things and write a note saying you're gone. You don't owe him any explanation if you're in physical danger - just get out, call it off, and don't stick around.
   
3. Ask for Support- Let your family know that you fear for your safety because of your boyfriend, and request that they refrain from speaking to this person, or sharing information about your whereabouts with the ex. Get support from professionals such as the police, counselors, a doctor, a church person - anyone you feel is trustworthy and responsible. In some cases, you should go to the police first if you fear for your life.
   
4. Take Your Children- If children are involved, take them with you. They deserve a better life away from abuse. However, in this instance you must be especially careful to ensure their safety. If you think a family member's residence won't be safe enough, seek help with a women's shelter or through the police rather than jeopardize your children's safety. Very possessive boyfriends/partners can try and use the children as a means of getting back at you, to the potential detriment of the children. Don't let them become a pawn in a game of one-sided revenge.
   

Tips

• In a lot of possessive relationships, it may just start off with little things, but you always want to know the signs because, in many cases, a possessive relationship can become abusive.
  
  • If he has physically harmed you at any time, or is doing so, take pictures of the bruises if you want to pursue legal action against him
    
  
  
• If your ex is persistent in coming over and trying to contact you once you've removed yourself from the situation, then file a restraining order against him.
  
• Carry protection, it might be wise to carry a can of pepper-spray or invest in a stun-rod or stun-gun. Be extremely careful using violence against violence, however, as it can so easily be turned against you and can also turn into an escalating episode of extreme violence. You are better off leaving and seeking protection.
  
• If the ex corners you and you have no way to protect yourself, or get away - yell "FIRE" as loudly as you can to get help. Too many people joke and/or don't respond to "Help" or "Rape".
  
• Keep your cell phone handy in case you need to call the police. If you can use a panic button or alarm, press it.
  
• If your ex is following you, go into the closest shop, or put yourself in a place that is well-lit, and well-populated. Ask the clerk to use the phone, or use your cell phone and call the police. Stay there until the police get there, then call someone you trust for a ride.
  
• Seek counseling to help you through the transition of leaving a violent ex into becoming a liberated and fear-free you. The fear and the scars will dog you if you don't seek outlets for your emotional fears and your feelings. You may also walk back into a similar relationship if you don't learn to recognize the signs.
  

Warnings

• Get Out- Do not leave any clue as to where you are going if you fear him to be a threat to your physical well-being.
  
• Break Up- Do not let yourself get talked into the relationship again. If the abuse is physical then they will tell you they're sorry and try all sorts of tricks to win you back - don't listen to them, say what you have to say and get out. If you return, the perpetrator is likely to recommence the violence; this is one time when a leopard rarely changes its spots.
  

Things You'll Need

• Any legal documents--titles to cars, deed to house, bills, rental agreement, leases, established custody orders, birth certificates, social security cards,school records, personal protection orders...
  
• Receipts for items you leave behind that is yours--if you are in a 'live-in' situation and you have receipts for furniture electronic and such, if you have proof the stuff is yours, you may be able to get it back later.
  
• Family photos
  
• Address book
  

Related wikiHows

• How to Deal With a Jealous Person
  
• How to Deal With a Jealous Friend Who Gives You the Silent Treatment
  
• How to Handle Jealousy
  
• How to Talk to Your Friend About Jealousy
  

Sources and Citations

• Medlineplus - numerous excellent links on how to deal with domestic violence
  

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How To Know The Husband Is Fooling Around?

Texts: Joel Escol

There are many ways to know when the man of your dreams betrayed the trust you both been working for years. You should be able to know these signs so that you can start tracking your mate whether he is still loyal to you or he had been fooling around without you knowing it. This happens many times to lovers and married couple because of certain factors we cannot simply understand.


These are four common signs when your man is fooling around.
• The man who usually goes home late in the evening is doing something unusual. That’s if he’s only working eight hours a day. The usual alibi of your husband is overtime from work. Can you believe it? Well, there maybe times he is telling the truth but you should also monitor him when he oftentimes said he has had some overtime. How to do this? You can call his officemates and ask them about his overtime alibis. However, you should also be doing this some sort of investigating on a more polite way without harassing his co-workers.
• When every time he went home late you can smell something unusual like the perfume of a woman. If this happens there is great possibility he unwinds with friends to night clubs or the worst scenario he has a mistress. If you feel your husband is fooling you and he has other woman do not confront him in a manner that the confrontation could lead to quarrel in the family. You should still remain calm because you are not sure yet that your husband is really “playing with fire.” Instead, try to conduct investigation in a secret way. There are also investigation agencies that can do the job for you for a fee. Of course if you are to hire their services you are to pay for it.
• If your husband is very conscious of his cellular phone and he keeps placing it into his pants and other safer places when his home. This already happens too many times. In fact, cellular phones are now the easiest way to communicate between people having secret love affairs. Many times the cellular phones lead to separation of many married couples. It’s so sad to note, however, that while we are advocating for successful married life, these things also happened.
• When the supposed monthly earnings from the company your husband is working is no longer remitted properly.
The same is true with many women who are betraying their husbands. These are also some signs you can also try to discover for you to detect or monitor her activities. When you finally discover your special someone has been fooling for other women try to immediately find remedy for this problem while it’s not too late for the marriage or relationship to suffer.

5 Secrets Your Husband Never Told You

Texts: Joel Escol
How far do you know your husband? Do you know him from the start since you were still dating if he had some secrets before you get married or until now he’s still keeping it? There are reports of some secrets most husbands never told their wives.


1. Your husband never told you he has a kid before you meet with each other. This sounds disgusting in your part since it might be that you discover the secrets later and this may cause you and your husband trouble.
2. Your husband never told you he had encountered sex with different women whom he had relationships with before you meet and decided to tie a knot. Of course this may also be a bad situation in your part and also may cause trouble in the family.
3. Your husband never told you he had sex with some of the bar women or what other tagged as guest relation officers (GROs). Many married couple also had this problem because the wife has acquired sexually-transmitted disease when she married the man of her dreams. This problem later may also reach into alarming level as the man of her dreams becomes her worst nightmare.
4. You husband never told you he still go to night clubs even when you already get married and had children. What is most embarrassing is that you discover this fooling around of your beloved hubby from your closest friends and office mates – and worst from your parents.
5. Your husband never told you he has a mistress and this is the worst challenge in your married life. If this happens to you that the man of your dreams has betrayed you and the marriage, this is really serious problem cropping up - and you should prepare yourself from any consequence or find good solution to remedy the problem before it gets worst and which may end to separation later.

Sex problems sometimes lead to separation

Believe it or not but sex can also cause trouble among married partners. There are people who consider sex as part of successful married life. This means you have to exhaust all measures how you can satisfy your partner in terms of sex. If you are the husband who has small penis and your wife is not satisfied with it – you should solve this problem or this will ruin your married life. Penis enlargement nowadays is not anymore a problem


The work of modern medicine creates wonders even in sex life. This means you should not worry about it anymore. You can visit a store where you can buy penis enlargement pills to help your sex life exciting again. As a husband it is also your role to satisfy the needs of your wife in terms of sex, so as your wife to you. If you are ashamed to find this store in your country you can search many sites in the internet which offer better pills or other methods for penis enlargement purposes. Completing your successful life as a married couple should include sex life, so never hesitate to ask for guidance or counsel if you are having sex problems with your partner.

Dating Secrets Revealed

By: London Phelps

Dating… Never thought I’d be there again! Divorce took it’s toll and I had just about given up…just about, until I discovered the secret that changed my life forever.

As I said, I was just about to give up until one day, when I was up in the attic, or more accurately, the ex’s attic, I came across some old boxes full of stuff from my younger years. Old magazines, yearbooks, various keepsakes and such. Then low and behold, I stumble across an old journal of mine that I started when I was 21 years old.


Looking back now, I wonder how I ever met any women at all. I mean I was really quite pathetic. It dawned on me at that moment that no where in my journal was I documenting how ugly I was, how skinny I was, or how broke I was, but boy was I sure coming off as a pathetic loser. A loser no woman in their right mind would ever give a moments notice to.

I got to thinking, was it my appearance or my attitude and personality that made me such a turn off. A bit of both, I’m sure. However, I quickly realized that I wasn’t alone in all this. I had had many friends with the same afflictions but one guy in particular seemed to have no trouble at all getting the ladies.

So, I looked him up and gave him a call. It took some doing but I finally tracked him down in Ft. Collins, Colorado. We caught up on old times and I asked him how he was doing now, was he married, children, things like that.

He said he had no children that he was aware of and why on earth would he tie himself to the archaic ritual of marriage. I replied that I just thought that to be the natural course of things. I asked him then if he had ever considered the idea of marriage.

He stated quite emphatically that yes, he had indeed thought quite hard about it and committed a great deal of his life as a proponent against it. Seems he had become a divorce attorney and witness to the destruction caused by many a failed marriage, especially to men.

Women suffer emotionally after a divorce, but the laws protect them financially unlike the men in the equation, and I do not believe that to be fair… his argument, not mine.

He told me that he had actually written a book about dating and how to get the benefits of marriage without suffering the consequences of divorce, a very snappy title indeed!

I confessed to him that I had played the field for almost twenty years before settling down but never put two and two together about how my childhood had severely limited my abilities to manipulate women to my way of thinking. I mean I was good at it, in fact I survived financially on the very concept, but unlike him, I always thought I would eventually settle down. It turns out my insecurities about forever being alone as a teenager kept my subconscious mind starving for some documented form of life long commitment.